Creating a life well designed is centered around realizing the power within every choice you make.
It’s about taking a good long look at yourself in the mirror, and taking stock of who you are as an individual. For most of my life growing up I couldn’t look myself in the eye. I lacked the confidence and power to take ownership of how I felt about myself.
I lacked power.
Cultivating personal empowerment means you have to develop confidence. You have to discover your own strength. Reach your goals. Transform your potential to kinetic energy.
No matter who you are you have things you’re great at, and things that could use improvement. You have a unique spectrum of abilities you use ever day and I’m willing to bet you undervalue yourself, too.
If you’re ready to take back your power, you’re ready to take control of your life by setting higher goals and working towards them by making better choices. Along the way you’ll develop confidence. You’ll improve your strengths and weaknesses. You’ll find some limitations (and then go beyond them).
How many of these do you see in yourself?
Personal development is rarely something people think about when things are going well. It can be a difficult process. It sure can be painful. Making significant change can take getting backed into a corner before you do what’s needed to fully own your power.
So what do you need to work on?
There’s an idea in Buddhism called “Upaya.” It basically translates as “skillful means.” You do as best you can and when you know better, you do better. The more skillful you become the better your chance at getting the results you’re looking for. Life is always going to throw you curve balls, and if you only have one way to respond, you’re always going to have the same outcome.
If you want different results, you need to cultivate the skill of creating different choices. These are the 5 areas where your hard work will be best spent.
AKA: Emotional EQ. Being self aware means you spend time knowing yourself, how you think, how you react to situations, and how you deal with others.
If you don’t know where you are, it’s difficult to get where you want to go. Self awareness is absolutely critical for anyone who wants to make the most out of what they have, and minimize the time they spend on regretting what they don’t have.
Your opinions & beliefs about how the world works are so deep inside your mind that you’re not always fully aware of what values you hold most dear.
They are all-powerful in that your values govern the choices you make. If you don’t understand why you continue to make the choices you do, it’s always in alignment with your values.
Your work with self awareness means you have to put in time discovering what values you prioritize over all others, question how well they serve you, and fully appreciate that everyone else you meet has different values that govern their choices too.
What skills do you have? How sharp are they?
Your skills are the main resource you draw on to get the results you want. It’s not money. It’s not time.
You can learn your skills the hard way; trial & error. You can learn from books. You can learn anything on YouTube nowadays, too. You can learn fastest from a mentor or coach who can create a custom-designed plan specifically for you.
However you choose to learn them, skills are the only way you can put your values into action.
Your chances of success are even smaller when you make bad choices based on bad information.
Through the power of the internet, you have the ability to get any kind of information at your fingertips 24/7.
Critical thinking skills and the ability to evaluate the quality of the information you’re using to make your choices is absolutely essential.
Find the most accurate information you can, and do the best you can with it.
While the pleasure of travel is in the journey and not in the destination, it’s good to know you’re not wasting gas going nowhere.
Everything you do is working towards something, and it’s deeply empowering to set your own destination. Who’s been setting the goals you’ve been working towards? You? Your parents? Your friends?
Setting your own goals will focus your energies, and is absolutely essential to personal empowerment.
To build the life you truly want takes gumption, confidence, and essential skills. The details laid out in this post are a great place to start.
Soon we’ll be covering how the language you use can empower yourself & others. Or how it can be used to disempower everyone.
It’s your choice.
It always has been.