One of my favorite pieces of advice I got from a long-time friend is this:
You can’t blame water for being wet.
What he was saying is people are who they are, and you have to accept that that’s who they are. You can’t get mad at someone because they’re not who you think they are.
We can spend a lot of time trying to change the people in our lives, and that’s pretty useless.
Let’s put it into context this way. Think about how hard it is for you to make changes in your own life. Nearly impossible unless there’s a mighty compelling reason, right? It’s possible, but you really have to want it.
Now, how effective do you think you’ll be at making changes in someone else’s life just because you want them to be someone different?
Once you realize we’re all fighting our own fight, you start to focus more on what you can do in your own life, and less on what others should be doing with theirs.
Lead by example, and be an inspiration to the people in your life. That’s the best way to facilitate change.